Dealing With Trust IssuesFeb 11, 2022
How to Resolve TRUST ISSUES in a Relationship?
Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.
Trust is the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. It is the cornerstone of every relationship be it a romantic, friendly, professional, or familial relationship.
Trust is that oil that ensures the smooth functioning of every relationship. The absence of trust can have serious consequences.
However, the portion of ourselves we invest in each individual may vary depending upon our past experiences with them. When we trust someone we are putting ourselves in the most vulnerable position. Any betrayal may leave scars or lifelong damage, which can be irreparable.
Below is a survey that reveals the level of trust people have in each other in the United States:
What to do When You Are Having Trust Issues?
Acknowledge the problem:
Before going any further with distrust in a relationship, acknowledge that you don’t trust them completely and that an issue is present.
Communication is the key solution to solving problems, no matter how trivial it may seem to you. Have an open and honest conversation with the person you no longer trust. Share why and what caused distrust. If you have proof, show them so that you have a strong basis to your objections. It's likely that you will be able to clarify all misunderstandings.
As a couple or pair, you can look for ways to reinstate the lost trust. Decide upon certain criteria that one must meet to be reliable and trustworthy again. Create an action plan.
You have done all you could to save your relationship, and still, you are dealing with trust issues. Ask yourself: Can I do away with the relationship? Does this relationship add value to my life?
You are not obligated to carry on and keep yourself forever tormented in any relationship. Such relationships are definitely not worth your time and emotions.
If the person is your parent, a sibling or a co-worker with whom you cannot break ties easily, it may be time to set firm boundaries. As theses relationships are sometimes unavoidable, it is essential to utilized the aforementioned steps and develop a positive way forward for a healthy, trusting relationship.
With your past experiences with the respective person, you should develop a backup plan and coping strategies in the event they betray you again. Thus, protecting yourself and preventing further emotional damage.
Whoever the person is, it may be beneficial to give them a chance to explain themselves. At times, our past experiences are so hurtful, we fear trusting people; however, finding the strength to trust and forgive could be advantageous to our personal growth and finding a trustworthy person.
“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” –Ernest Hemingway